It is natural for people to distance themselves if they are hurt, disrespected, disappointed or betrayed by friends and loved ones over and over.
Sometimes, the pain is so deep that, they find it impossible to trust anyone again. Situations such as betrayal of trust, abuse or death of dear one can make even the hard core Christian to retreat from everyone rather than risk more pain trusting again. My friend who lost the parliamentary elections four years ago finds it difficult to trust people again, but one thing I keep reminding him is that, NOT everyone in that constituency voted AGAINST him. When we lose trust in people, we get nervous and frightened, fearing that the bottom may fall out any moment. The thought of being betrayed, disappointed, taken for granted or taken advantage of scares us. Feeling unprotected, vulnerable, and not in charge, we are usually alert to danger and always ready to strike back. On the other hand, trusting people is an aspect of love; “it bears all things, believes all things, (Trust All Things) hopes all things, endures all things”. (1 Corinthians 13:7)
The carnal mind will always remind you of what hurts so that you remain stagnant and unproductive; the spiritual mind keeps you focused on God and not man. We keep guessing the motives of people expecting them to hurt us because we were once hurt; they broke the trust we gave them, now everyone around is a suspect of trust. Even if we choose to trust, it’s from a distance, we do so by guarding and guiding our thoughts about those around us. It is important to learn lessons from broken trust and betrayal, but it is even more important to focus on “things that are true, honourable, just, pure, lovely, commendable, excellent and worthy of praise”. (Philippians 4:8). It also means forgiving those who betrayed us and broke our trust, over looking offenses if possible, and not keeping detail account of ways we have been mistreated and hurt.
Trust is feeling safe around others. Feeling safe gives us a sense of freedom in our relationship with God and others. You must learn to trust yourself to trust others. Most people can’t trust because, they don’t trust themselves.
To be cont..
Stay blessed always and remember to love someone and mean it.
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Rev. Prophet Luke Luki Barson is the Senior Pastor at Liberty House Christian Centre at Tema Community 25.
He has studied at the University of Ghana, the Methodist University College and the Christian Service University College.
He is currently a PhD student at the University of South Africa.